Hi ya'll! I've been MIA for a couple of months, trying to get settled into a new city, a new house, a new job. Which means getting the Todd settled into a new city, a new house, a new routine WITH a babysitter, and days without Mommy & Grammy. It's been quite a transition and I won't say it's all been cake but we've survived.
However, I'm trying to figure out if all this "change' has brought on the terrible two's which we were on the high road that passes those days right up. Oh no...they are HERE...full force. I NOW know what those mommies mean when they say things like, "we had a wonderful day today, no tantrums, no fits for no apparent reason, no back talk, etc." I KNOW what they are talking about because these days, I take note of the days that L wakes up in a good mood, doesn't pitch a fit, kick or throw something in frustration or tell me she is gonna hit me! It's daily drama now. I kinda hate it. She totally acts like a teenager! If I'm not seething, I'm usually laughing because it's so funny that when she can't get something to do what she wants it to do...she comes over and smacks me or throws something or herself into the floor and screams at the top of her lungs. That usually results in a time out which brings on more travail. It's irritating and funny all at the same time. And let me tell you, if I laugh at her...her wrath is worse. That's usually when I get punched! And then I laugh harder. Not really...well..yeah sometimes I just can't help it. So I'm trying to do what is right and curb this behavior because it's starting to spill over in public. I REAALLLY hate that. Cause what do you do? I mean I've been that person that glared at mom's who obviously didn't have control of their kids in public and now I am becoming one of them. And it amazes me how conscious I am, now, when I say things like, "you are going to get a spanking if you don't stop." I feel like all eyes are on me if I do anything slightly aggressive to stop the behavior. When I was growing up, a slap on the behind in public or getting jerked up by one arm and scolded in the grocery store...was NOTHING. Nobody batted an eye. In fact, I think most people thought, "good for that mom/dad...that kid needed that!" Today...you get the evil eye if you so much as lay a finger on your kid in public. It's frustrating! I spank! I believe in spanking! I'm a believer in the Word of God and God says to spare NOT the rod when it comes to punishing your kids, because if you do, they will suffer for it!" (my paraphrase :) I believe a spanking humbles a child and brings them back to a right spirit. A spirit that can be dealt with. So, how do you handle that in today's world? No...really..I'm asking, how do YOU(moms) handle it?
And let me tell you, not that it matters what you THINK, but just so you know. At this age, L is learning. I accept that but I also feel like that learning process must be laced with discipline. I feel like she should be punished for things she does no better about but chooses to do any way(a lot of that going on these days) but I also believe teaching is paramount. And I am trying to balance how much should be instruction and how much should just be punishment. I admit I sometimes react hastily and have to remember that she is only 2 and needs to be instructed. I'm not above apologizing to her for overreacting either. I firmly believe children need to hear "will you forgive me" and "I"m sorry..I was wrong" PLENTY in their lives...and starting now. I also recognize that spanking is NEVER the answer 100% of the time and I don't practice that because honestly time out is VERY effective for my little one. I'm sure that spanking, sans the 3" padding, will become more affective.
So weigh in moms. Tell me how you discipline in public because I did utter the phrase, "I'm just gonna quit leaving the house with her" after this weekend's outings.
Oh and now, "OH MY CRAP" is the favored phrase of choice in our household. No idea where she picked that up...and I'm totally serious...because OKAY...she has heard the word CRAP but OH MY...no!! She picked that up somewhere else!
2 days ago