L doesn't have a clue right now. She's still too young. But she will know one day soon. Right now, she is seeing the role of father's on TV. Some of the Nickjr. shows she watches have fathers. Some do not. But she has actually said the word daddy and today she learned the word father when we told "Papa" and "Grandpa" happy father's day. She said, "favuh". I couldn't help but wonder when the question would come. That bridge hasn't presented itself so we won't cross yet.
There are questions that I don't know how I will answer yet, but there are things I'm certain of now. I'm certain, first and foremost, of my Heavenly Father's love for me and my daughter and His willingness and ability to meet all of our needs. I'm certain of the influence my own father, grandfather, even my brother, have had on me growing up and as an adult. It has helped shape who I am, spiritually, mentally and emotionally. That affects how I am raising L. I'm also certain of the wonderful men, whom God has put in my life, through the years and now, who exemplify what being a father should be.
My life is rich with memories and life knowledge that I can attribute to wonderful fathers who have been present for me. I have no doubt my daughter will experience the same. She knows her Uncle "Wance" and her Papa Mac. She is sweet and gentle around her frail great grandpa. She just knows he needs a little extra loving when we visit him.
L started from the moment she was born with wonderful, influential men, in her life, who will be there for her and support her. Daddy G and Uncle Nene were there that first year, physically, for her. She will know them and they will be part of that support that I know God will provide for her.
There's a wonderful story about a dad, dying of cancer, and what he did for his twin girls. Go here to check it out. It's a testament to the power of supportive "fathers"....men, who can be what your children need, regardless if their blood is the same.
Happy Father's Day gentlemen....you touch our lives and we need you.